CHAPTER 32.
Half the truth is often a great lie.
Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richard's Almanack, 1758
| DREAM HOME TURNS INTO NIGHTMARE ...In July 1985, the Martins decided to take the plunge. They agreed to buy the land from the developer, -----------. The builder would be ------------- Construction Inc. and the architect --------. ...None of those involved in building the house had bad reputations. But all would later be named as defendants in a lawsuit brought by the Martins. Construction of the Martins' dream house began in late 1985. On May 17, 1986, [the community] granted a permit stating that the house complied with building requirements and was fit for occupancy. It wasn't. Neither was it a dream house. Cuyahoga County Common Pleas Judge ---------------------- recalled last week that when he first walked through the living room of the house, he had the distinct impression he was walking downhill. Unfortunately, that wasn't the only problem. ...In July 1987 the Martins filed their lawsuit. They asked that the entire construction contract be rescinded, that they be refunded their money and allowed to void the entire deal. Considering that the house was already built, this was a major request, requiring that the court find that the breach of the contract was so material, so enormous, that the Martins could wash their hands of it. The court, with --------- hearing the case, found just that, and the ruling was not appealed. -------------- also ruled that the builder and the architects were liable to the developer for damages. Still, in more ways than one, the Martins were the big losers in this case. For the three years they lived in their new home, not a day went by that they weren't reminded of what a disaster it was. Worse yet, they took a financial bath in their legal victory...The Martins won, all right, but they're at least $155,000 poorer for their victory. ...They've also written a book about their dream-house experience and are searching for a publisher ...They can call it "Nightmare on Pelican Road." |
| "When I went over the plans with Mrs. Martin, she wanted a support column in the basement moved to open the area. It's a common request, but in removing the column, I failed to recalculate the loads (on the beam)." |
| said he offered to fix [his design] problem, which he estimated would have cost $3000 to $5000, but the Martins chose to take legal action. |
| "When this first started, I came here with a level and couldn't find any slope in the floors. I did tell them it might be an optical illusion. But what came out in court is the Martins are extremely sensitive people. They could feel the uneven floors. But they had to use surveyor's equipment to find out where the sloping was. And the slope was five-sixteenths of an inch." |
| "...the sloping floors, which were noticeable, were caused by flexed beams and basement columns set too low in the foundation, a construction error." |
| "I never heard from [the Martins]. They drew up the contract with me and passed all responsibility on to the builder and architect..And I responded to the builder when he gave me copies of their letters to him." |
| "Everybody wanted to do the right thing. But [the Martins] were encouraged by somebody that they could get $2 million, so they didn't let the builder complete the repairs to the house...That's why they brought all their experts in." |
| Mr. Cooper said he did offer to settle out of court, contrary to the Martins' claim, and [Mr. Cooper] also claimed [the Martins] are the ones who reneged on an out-of-court settlement. |
| "The whole thing got blown out of proportion. I was not unhappy with the house. That's why I didn't appeal the case." "I'll be lucky to get $375,000 for [the house]. You just don't get $400,000 on this block...I wish they would have stayed and let [the builder] fix their house." |
| FOOTNOTE. What was Murdock's reaction to all this publicity? On July 18 our attorney sent us the following letter: Dear Larry and Ruth, I have been reading the articles in the various newspapers concerning the house. The only person I have had contact with in connection with the articles is Harold Pierce [Murdock's attorney] who expressed concern about the adverse impact the articles may have on Murdock's business. I told Pierce that, from what I have read, the articles are truthful [as regards Murdock], though not always complete. Pierce stated that he hoped the newspaper "campaign" was over and that he did not want to look into a claim of "business disparagement" against you. I told Pierce that I thought you had every right to express yourself (truthfully) and that I read nothing that would rise to the level of `business disparagement.' |
| BY OWNER. VERY SPECIAL...5 bedroom Contemporary. 2 Acre fully wooded lot on quiet cul-de-sac street...Ready now for occupancy. Low 400's. |
FOOTNOTE. I have purposely avoided any psychiatric analysis to this point. After all, I was hurt as a woman, mother and homemaker, not as a psychiatrist. The men who desecrated my home couldn't have cared if I was a doctor or candlestick maker. I will use this footnote to explain something about the psychology of people like our developer, what makes them `tick.' This information may help you avoid the pain we endured.
In my opinion, Cooper's treatment of us exemplifies the behavior of people who inflict pain on others without feeling pain themselves. Chances are you have run into this type, known in psychiatric jargon as the "antisocial personality disorder." A personality disorder is a pathological (not normal) `equilibrium state' in which the individual displays both occupational and interpersonal dysfunction. The antisocial personality maintains his (or her) state of equilibrium by inflicting pain on others, and feels no pain while doing so. The most extreme examples are serial murderers, rapists, and chronic wife beaters.
The disorder can manifest in less extreme ways. The vast majority of these "bad people" people who hurt others without feeling pain are certainly not murderers or rapists or criminals in any sense of the word; they have what psychiatrists call an antisocial character trait, a tendency toward antisocial or deviant behavior that arises in certain situations. For example, we heard nothing about Cooper's lack of business integrity before our dealings with him. His antisocial trait became apparent when he was faced with the choice of acting responsibly (and risking the loss of money) or acting irresponsibly and inflicting pain on others (us). His trait became flagrant externalization (he blamed us) when he was proven to have breached our contract and was publicly exposed.
The equilibrium of people with the antisocial personality trait is maintained by taking advantage of others, hurting people needlessly, telling obvious lies, being physically or verbally abusive, etc. Such behavior helps maintain their psychologic equilibrium. Only their victims feel pain.
People with the antisocial personality trait lack "conscience," or what psychiatrists call the superego. In psychiatric jargon, these people have "holes" in their superego. If you end up in an argument with such a person it is best to understand early on what you are up against. You can't fight these people, except in a narrow legal sense, because they feel no pain for their dishonest behavior.
The thing that matters the least to this type of person is you, your feelings, your sense of injustice. Don't waste time hoping he will change behavior or attitude because of your pain and suffering. He won't. Finally, don't rely on his good will or sense of decency to do the right thing. If you have been hurt by someone with antisocial tendencies, understand that he (or she) is beyond feeling any pain, remorse, or guilt for what he did to you. If you try to reason with him or appeal to any sense of decency or ask for succor you will just be hurt further. That is a path to total frustration.
What are signs of people with antisocial personality tendencies? Here are some strong indicators often apparent in the business world:
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